A misfit not understanding

I am sitting here thinking that I do not want to write any more. I don’t want to express any thoughts and any ideas.

why?

Because I simply don’t understand.

I look over my life and see things. I see blessings, I see family, I see stuggles, and I see messy. We all should be able to do that, be it bad or good stuff.

But I don’t understand how life got to be this way. I don’t understand how the little things that mattered so much mean nothing to anyone anymore. I don’t understand how doing the right things end with having bad consequences. I dont understand how love has gotten so lost.

I don’t understand how things have gone from praying to not caring. I dont understand how it has become easier to push down instead of lifting up. I don’t understand why good advice goes unwanted. I don’t understand how smiles are really poisonous.

But most of all, I don’t understand how everyone says God is good, praise the Lord, I will be praying and never mean it.

Be careful. Be smart. Be kind. But if you are kind, be aware that you may be one of the few in this world who has a heart filled with hope.

As for me, maybe writing is in vain. I don’t understand why I try anymore.

A Misfit and seeing

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My brother has a habit of asking my cousin ( little brother ❤️) and me the most interesting, sometimes nonsensical, and often intriguing questions in our little group chat. But before he ask, he will say, I have a question 🤔 lol. We usually have a comment like ” good grief” 😀😱

Today, I want to do the same with whomever is reading this passage. I HAVE A QUESTION 🤔.

👀Do you have my eyes?👀

So many have quick responses to other people issues or lifestyles, but it is a fact that everything we do is based off of something that has happened in our lives. Either things were passed down, leaned behaviors from family, or personal life experiences that set the foundation for a belief system. Honestly, all of those things could be good or bad for a person, but it depends on the opinion of observers.

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It is so easy to look at anyone and point out how misguided they are and wonder what on 🌎 are you thinking🙄. However, if we pause to ask that very question, do I have their eyes, then it would slow the impulsive things we are so fast to say about a person. It would also remind us that just as we wonder that about others, people also wonder the same things about us at times!

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Take a moment and think about the things you have seen. Think about the experiences you have had over the years. Remember the rewards or consequences and how it shaped your motivations. We don’t pop out of the womb, stretch our arms, and then go out into to world fabulous 💃🏾🤭. We may think we did when we are feeling ourselves😄, when we have accomplished some good stuff🙌🏾, but we didn’t arrive on earth already fabulous! We all came here as a needy, sweet, and messy baby 👼🏽. Any fabulous stuff was developed & achieved along the and was our personal journey through experiences.

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I w never be able to see one hundred percent of how you became who you are, nor you for me, as it is impossible! Only you have your eyes and me mine!

Seeing is not just about looking. It’s about perspectives and feelings. It is connecting dots, putting puzzle pieces of your life into the right places🧩. Seeing is about understanding and accepting. It is about looking at yourself and having nowhere to run when you don’t like what you see, your self image. And most of all, seeing is about mental health and emtional development. When we are so fast to judge and ask what in the 🌎 is he/she doing, we neglect to acknowledge I don’t have his/her eyes to see their perosnal story!

Now, make no mistake, we have every right to lift eyebrows at people behaviors and choose to walk the other way. “Nope, not today”, is a real statement 😅! Smart choices for self is paramount!

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But, the relevance of my question is, what happens when everyone ignores “the why” and never have an open mind to sympathize or empathize with others. Let’s be clear, that’s not to say solve others problems or try to save the world like superheroes 🦸🏽‍♂️🦸🏼‍♀️, but it is to be able to have discerning concentration on being a prayer warrior for someone, offer encouragement to someone, share what your eyes have seen and taught you with someone, or simply offer a pat on the back to say don’t give up, you will be okay, I know because I’ve been there before😮‍💨. Sometimes people simply need to know their life is not the only one that’s travel certain paths and that people actually see them, AND CARE. 🥰😍

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A Misfit Praise to Moms

MOMS

We come and go. We cook and clean. We try to relax, but relaxation comes far and in between everything else.

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We organize. We wipe the tears. We change the diapers and figure out the homework. We go to the bathroom and hear knocks on the door. We sometimes don’t care how we look anymore.

We give ignored advice then help figure out solutions. We give up our activities to provide the ones they need and want to participate in. We wear the hats to match the moments and we get things done. When we have a quiet minute, it’s golden.

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We deal with the schools, the doctors, the bullies, and the friends. We take them to church and to programs and the plays they are in. We show up, no matter what.

We kiss the booboos, clean the vomit, and smell the stinky poop. We tuck them in and wake them up. We make the last minute run to the stores for anything they need.

We give the medicines, stay up late, and listen to them cough and sneeze. We run to them, tissues in hands, and wipe the noses in need.

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We play dolls , cars, and games and anything they request.. We clean up after the pets that we probably should not have gotten in the first place. We watch the same cartoons over and over again and when the new ones come to the movies, we find the money to get in.

We get the attitudes, the huffs and puffs and stumping on the floor. We get the rolling eyes and walk aways and slamming bedroom doors. We have to discipline and deal with our own anger. We have to cry sometimes from stress and disappointment and our own frustrations.

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Most importantly, we show up. We are the ones to say hey, it will be okay, did you say a prayer today? We say God is great and we don’t give up. We show them how to get back up when the worst is happening and the world seem so bad. We give them the hugs they need when no one else cares or is around. We get lonely and feel misunderstood from time to time. But we are the moms that God gave them, so we do our very best. That’s all we can do, and we ask God to do the rest.

One day, whenever they are grown, they will be out on their own. We will always be a mom, no matter what, but the world will still be the world. They may have a husband or a wife and go off to live their lives. We will watch them walk away some tears but also pride. We will see the ups and downs and our control will all be gone.

We will watch and hope and pray that the Lord will make a way for them in troubled times. But, our job now is a different one, nothing like the good Ole days. No more cartoons, cars, and dolls, they are packed at away at best. The old will be gone and the new will settle into place.

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Then we can look back at our “mom journey” and say I wasn’t perfect but I did my very best. I was that mom that stood with them and I am okay with that. All that work and little rest will be walking out into the world with a whole lot of me inside of them to keep them grounded and feel loved.

So moms, here’s to us. When we feel we are not enough, just hold on for one more day. The years go by fast and we can look back and say, I took this thing called motherhood and rocked it all the way!

A misfit winter

People often say we have a winter season of life. But I don’t think it is understood just how many winters we may have to endure in a lifetime.

The four season repeat every year. Winter doesn’t happen once and just stop. The catch is that each winter is different. Some are horrible and some are gentle. And the same goes for the winters in our lives. Some and gentle and some are life changing blizzards.❄️🥶

I am processing that myself. Some years, it seems I have had so much going on that I’d loose my mind😜. Other years, I learned to understand how much worse things can get🫠🤪. For example, being told I had a brain tumor was a rough situation and that year was hard. Can you saw “artic blast” happening in my life! However, being told I needed brain surgery a few years later made that “artic blast” seem like springtime.

My point is, going through the winters of life is something that seems to just be a natural occurrence. As we all should know by now, we cannot stop the forces or nature. My winter season right now has been on-going for almost a year, and honestly, I dont see any signs of a spring. But in nature, spring always come at some point and it brings rebirth and renewal with it. I am struggling with faith about springs return in my life these days, but the natural order has existed since the beginning of time! So, I am choosing to have hope in my spring returning.

Anyone else put there, who seems stuck in a winter, or feeling as if you’re living on Antarctica like me, just keep your eyes open for signs of a thaw, signs of a flower, of hope. Let things go and let what happens happen until you are released from the frigid coldness and the pain artic winds. Maybe one day spring will show up again and that warmth of your life’s summer will be back. And one day you will stand in the sunshine of life again. ✨️

How Many Hits

Breaking points. We all have them. But how fragile can it make us?

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It’s is intriguing to me to see how real the phrase the “the straw that broke the 🐫 back” is in life. It references just just how much a person can deal with before they give in to whatever is facing them and drastically change course in some way. Maybe it sounds simple because I’m sure we have all heard that phrase a million times as it’s quite common. However, it is not so simple. Think about it. If a lone piece of straw can break anything, then the item it landed on was barely standing or held together in the first place and that says it all!

I look at the world now, and I see so many people who are broken 💔because they trusted people and instead of kindness, understanding, or respect for the situation, they got licks. They perhaps received ridicule, judgment, or blame instead of the compassion, that listening ear, or the help they were seeking. Maybe they got hit with words that broke them down so far that it caused permanent damages. So many think hitting people mean striking them, giving them a beat down, or throwing hands. But there are so many ways to hit a person. There are emotional hits. There are spiritual hits. There are motivational hits. There are self esteem hits. The list can continue with many things. Everytime you open your mouth and throw out harsh words to someone, you are just hitting someone and being struck hurts. 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔Do you know how many hits a person has had before you give one out? Do you understand what situations are going on with a person before you dish out your words🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔? No. You don’t. People don’t always share! I know that I don’t! I usually share when I’m at a breaking point or desperate, as do so many others out here. Hitting someone with the power of words is just as deadly as hitting someone with a fist!

Sadly, many get comfortable doing so as they feel they have the right to say what they want when they want. I agree, we have a right to say things. And yes, maybe, to some degree, we all can say what we want to, when we want to, that’s true. But the thing is where does discernment come into play? Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should! How many hits can a person take before they give up, before its a tko and then what? Whose to blame when it’s that fatal blow? Realizing afterwards is a too little too late situation!

🫣🫣We see so much in the news and ask why and what in the world is going on! 🫣🫣 There are many answers to that question. But the one I’m speaking of today is that sometimes a person can take the slaps of tongue and keep going for a long time but one day it’s one hit too many and the person is broken.

Do you want to be the person who gives the fatal blow to someone? The next time you are saying words, think about what the other person is hearing or experiencing and understand you don’t know what other licks this person has been taking. Do you want to be the straw that broke that camals back? And if after thinking about that, you still don’t care, then what is that saying about who you are? I know someone reading this is saying I’m going to do me and be me. I agree, as we all have a right to do just that! I say that as well! However, I’m asking what will the price be to someone else? As you go about this year, think about others before you speak. Don’t be the straw.

☮️☮️Peace and love everyone❤️❤️. That’s the way.

Hummm

People love to say, WWJD, what would Jesus do? I used to ask that question as well. But lately, I am finding I want peace in my situations and it’s a really big challenge. I am learning that’s the wrong question if i want solutions. The question is what did Jesus do?

Where the mistake is, is not referencing the lessons Jesus walked the Earth teaching. Jesus was human. He was peopling like everyone else. He was watching and feeling like everyone else. Jesus had to make decisions and live life like the rest of us. The difference is, He was about His Father’s business, so His reasoning and reactions were nothing like ours.

Instead, Jesus developed the map of what to do to and left us with the Holy Ghost to actually feel when whatever we are doing is legitimate. When we are emotionally tired, when we are sick, when we see injustice, when we are lonely, when we broke, when we are angry, and so much more; all of it has instructions. Yet we choose to look at all these situations and in ignorance, make choices to do things our own way. And many Christians reference the phrase, hummm what would Jesus do in this situation? What a foolish question. We can’t possibly describe what He would do now. But we can always go back to the original source and look up what He did do!

Let’s start off the new year asking what did Jesus do and actually use the lessons he left for us to follow as examples instead of making inferences and guessing. We don’t need to guess and try to figure it out. It’s all there for us to read and to follow His example. Peace can be still if we remove our own thinking and let God the guide. The Bible isn’t for a fun read. It’s a guide. And if your question is , hummm but is the Bible true. Pray about it and then look into it. But don’t make the mistake of thinking we can predict Jesus’s actions. He already has given us answers. Just be smart enough to look for them and brave enough to accept and implement them in your life.

Salvation

Why do people look for salvation in all the wrong places? 💙Salvation is God’s saving grace. That grace came from God and that salvation made us whole through Jesus.💙

I’m sure some reading this may not be a Christian, and that’s not for me to judge.🫣 But even still, it needs to be understood that giving people power over your ability to move past the past is a waste of your life. People should never have that much power over your life. And they only have that power if you allow it to happen.😶

✝️Titus 2:11–14For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. ✝️

We are all entitled to salvation😍. And because It doesn’t come from man, we don’t have to seek man to have it! However, many are always looking and searching and wasting the time they have here, waiting on imperfect people 🫠 to make them feel redeemed when it’s not even possible in the first place.

We are all sinners in need of forgiveness and second chances 😮‍💨! We all sin daily and we all need forgiveness from those we do wrong🙄. But, in the crazy of it all, salvation doesn’t need to be solicited in the process. Nobody needs to feel like they have to live stuck in a place of yearning for a second chance. All you need to do and understand you are human and you mess up and so does everyone else! 🫥And as long as you recognize your wrongful ways, repent, and change, then you can move past things.

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🫶🏾Love yourself enough to be okay and to enjoy your life, even after the bad thing you may have done. Your salvation has already been given to you. You don’t need people for that! Your lifestyle, however, is all in your hands 🫶🏾. So, make the changes you need and step out a new person, a better you.🥰

So, I am going to intentionally be redundant in my closer because it is so important to understand salvation. Many look for salvation from others 🥺. They look for forgiveness and redemption from people in their situations and think it equates to salvation. But it’s not the case! Forgiveness is so important, but even being forgiven for your wrongful ways won’t give salvation! The ultimate forgiveness already came from God. 🙌🏽 Salvation is a gift from God through Jesus. We already have it through grace, not our actions. I can’t stress this enough! It is important for people who seek salvation to understand that no person will give it because no person can. So make your peace with yourself and know God loves you.

✝️John 3:16–18For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.✝️

Amen!

Silence can be Golden

Trees grow towards the support system, the light, and bends accordingly. This is a natural process. 🌴🌳 So, sometimes we need to let things happen naturally and see the beauty in it.

To do that in life, sometimes it takes closing our mouths. 🤫

Learning to be quiet is one of the hardest things to do. It is not in my nature to see something that can help a person and be quiet about it 🙃. I’d rather know I did my due diligence and offered information instead of having to say “I knew that was going to happen” after the fact.

So often, people have insight and choose to dismiss the need to share. I am not that kind of person. However, I think I am making a change.It seems being quiet is part of peaceful existence ☮️. More often than not, speaking up cause debate and leaves the door open for negative atmospheres. If you have a goal of peaceful existence, which I have made my ultimate goal, one thing that needs to happen it an understanding quiet. Quiet means no arguments. Quiet means no drama.

I have come to understand the power of being quiet.🤫 The intention is to help with my words and if my words are not perceived as helpful, then why waste them and disturb my personal peace?

So, before you decide to offer input, make a suggestion, correct anyone, or even just comment, ask self, is being quiet a better choice and will what I say even matter? The answer may just surprise!🫢 And the outcome without you may surprise you ad well. Trust the process, like the trees in nature, and just see which way things grow.

A Misfit and Living YOUR Own Life

One of the hardest things to do is to live your own life. The journey of self is the journey we should be on, yet if many of us look at the relaities of daily living, it can be seen that the living we are doing is not for self. Then begs the question, who are we living life for? Well, the answer will vary. But at the end of each day, you are a day older and time waits for none of us. Therfore, whatever “you things” that could have been experienced that day are lost.

I am an all time, try to make it happen, get it all done, kind of person. But what I have discovered is that I generally try to make things happen for everyone except myself 🤔

I’ve almost entered the realm of living my life just so others can live their lives, ignoring the fact that I a actually have a life too. I am fun💃🏽. I am creative👩🏽‍🎨. I am spiritual🙏🏼. I am adventurous🤩. Yet, nothing about my daily living contain any of those experiences.

I also have all of this great advice about “walking good paths” and “getting the most of everything you dabble in while on your path” that I often spread to others through the passages I share📝, the videos I send 🖥, or even songs I share🎶. I have a mission to be inspiring to people. My problem is not regularly applying that which I share with others to myself. 😔 I don’t inspire myself! We all need to learn to be our own inspiration!

I need to take all that wonderful stuff and apply it to myself; take all the wonderful knowledge and reaources I have been blessed with and use it for my own good too. I need to live my life. Maybe I have had this epiphany a bit late as time has been marching on quickly 🙄🤪, but if anyone reading this can relate and really understand what I am saying, use it to rethink your days. You use this tid bit of information I am sharing from my world to yours in my blog and reorganize your life. Reprioritize your days to make sure it includes you! Live YOUR own life and don’t forget about you ✨️ 😉!

Misfit and rescues

😔No one deserves to feel worthless.😔 No one should have to feel like there is as struggle to be relevant in the world. Yet, it happens more than people realize. It’s always interesting to see how people respond when someone is down. When a person is poor in spirit, or suffering with emotions, or even desperate for money🤑. Maybe a person is seeking attention🤪, looking for love 💔, or even just trying to find a happy moment to smile. I have been in those places myself. Desperate. And now when I see it, I recognize it.

It is so easy to kick a person when they are down . It is easy to say “you are the problem”. It is even easier is to decide “oh well, you are not going to worry me with your mess.” I wonder, what would happen if everytime we send up prayers, God had that same response. What if He just keep it moving and ignore the cries for help that is sent up to Him and instead rebuked us for bothering Him in the first place. He won’t because the Bible says He hears us and He doesn’t use our faults and situations against us.

What is so wrong about meeting a person where they are and giving the support they need instead of having the opposite mindset and pulling the rug out from under someone. Why is watching someone fall more satisfying than lending a hand to hold them up? Sometimes a person is obviously, barley standing up in the first place and one negative comment or action could be the breaking point😡🤬.

There is a thin line between being an angel😇 and being a 😈 demon. Some will say they are neither, but in the end we all are either working for God or the devil with our words and actions.

I live and love by some sayings. One of them is if you can’t help a person, don’t do or say anything to hurt them🤫. Our words can hurt or help people. And the sad thing is, we know that fact already. Yet, some choose to say things to make a point, regardless of how it makes a person feel. And yes, a person needs to hear truth sometimes, but if it is said in malice, to put a person in a place beneath yourself, or just to get the satisfaction of knowing it hurt them, then it’s not a God thing. And if it’s not a God thing, guess who you just served in the situation. Yes, the devil. Some will say this is a drastic statement, but our actions are drastically done everyday based off personal choices and can have drastically consequences!

I think how differently I must see the world. I see positive possibilities through helping others, despite their short comings. But so often I walk through the world alone with that type of hope in my heart. I simply want to give up sometimes. 😪I should not see helping others as a good thing or a positive thing because some days the hope is simply not there🥺. Yet, God shows me the beauty in every day by simply letting me look at the clouds🌤 and the raindrops🌧. He shows me the rainbows🌈 and the sunshine🌞and He reminds me there is goodness in me that is made to give to others, no matter what. He reminds me that there are those who didn’t give up on me and still raise me up today. There is so much more beauty in His love for us, with our failures and mistakes, because that’s where we see His grace and mercy active in this world💙💜💙. Grace and mercy comes from God and we should willingly and graciously pass on that goodness to everyone we can.

🌟🌟🌟It is only right to give that same attention and affection to others in their time of situations and imperfections as God gives to me with my imperfections. There is more sunshine than storms and that’s the way to approach people. Give them hope and support on the stormy days so they can hold on until their sun is shinning again. A little light can go a long way in someone’s dark times. Be that light 🌟🌟🌟. Don’t add to someone’s darkness.